Anyway, to return to the original point, self-soothing techniques are really important when you are stressed or upset. When you are caught up in a a storm of powerful emotion - whether that be anger or frustration, sadness or fear or extreme anxiety - these calming techniques may help to lessen the intensity of your feelings and allow you to think more clearly and logically. I can only speak for myself but I know, when I am very, very upset, my thoughts become a racing pulsation in my head and it appears, in the heat of the moment, that my whole world is destroyed. So of late, I have been trying to help myself by self-soothing and comforting techniques, to help ease my distress and clear my head and prevent myself from going into total shutdown. But I know that I have beome more open. I have learnt the importnac of reaching out. After keeping secrets for so so long about my eating disorder and how I really felt about my shape, my weight and my body, I am finally learning to accept and seek help.
Anyway, enough of my babbling - I just thought I would share some of my own favoured comforting techniques which you might find helpful :)
- Take a long, hot shower. Grab some fluffy towels, a soft dressing gown to wrap yourself up in once you are done, and then of course an aromatic, soothing shower gel to scrub all over your body. Step under the tap and feel the hot water run over your skin. Scrub at your body with a soft sponge. I always focus on these sensations and take comfort from the warmth and the fragrant scents of lavender or chamomile or coconut.
- Make yourself a mug of your favourite drink - whether that be hot chocolate, herbal tea, a strong coffee or milky tea. Sit down with your cuppa and wrap your hands around the mug,savouring the heat and inhaling the scent.
- Go outside into nature and take a few moments to look at everything around you. Notice all the little, beautiful things. The sparrows building nests, the fresh new green leaves on the trees, the bees sipping nectar out of the flowers. And listen, too. I love doing this and always fin it so calming..to focus on the different sounds, just notice them. Birdsong, the wind in the trees, the distant sounds of farm machinery, the cows lowing in the fields.
- Pet a furry friend <3 I do this with Felix all the time and for me, this is the ultimate soothing effect. ;) <3
Awwww what could be more comforting than having this little cutie on your lap... <3
- Sitting in a quiet, warm, comfortable room and closing your eyes, just for a matter of minutes, I have also always found very helpful. I sometimes put music on playing softly in the background and when I close my eyes I let the music create pictures and images in my mind. I also like to focus on the different sounds I hear, both inside and outside the room.
- I know it's quite an obvious one but...Hugging or cuddling up to someone is always so so comforting <3
- And also, especially on old days, I love to pour a little hot water and baby bath in a basin and soak my feet in it for a while.